Hello everyone!
It's been so freaking long since I've been on here and life has really changed from the days where I just got to live on forums. I'm not sure where to turn to and hope the wide range of Villagers could offer advice.
Here is the Dilemma :
I started seeing this woman I met through work. She
was the office manager for a CPA firm my Company did I.T. work for. She is fairly successful and has a lot of experience in office management, but almost nothing to do with Taxes or other accounting affairs. (she had learned a lot however since being there.) Her Employer was pregnant, Hormonal, and Very intrusive w/ no boundaries. Many illegal things were done to her (refused to be paid for worked days and secret cameras pointed at her desk.)
Her most recent EX (DUDE #1) (lives local) is not very smart or educated. He makes 6 figures a year but it's a labor intensive job. He seems bi-polar and is very abusive/ manipulative in his actions. He calls all the time and tries to talk via text messages. The Finale of them was that he waited until her lease expired and was on his doorstep to tell her he wanted to move onto someone else. as another example of his Character, he forced her out of his vehicle (it was stopped at the time) in the middle of Gainesville, then went back to her apartment and stole her mom's steam cleaner, and drove back by her making her walk 5+ miles in the dark, in downtown Gainesville. also worth mentioning he has a restraining order against him from his first wife (who he has a daughter by) for stalking. He has driven 2+ hours to drop a letter off at her mother's house after she explicitly told him not to. He also tries to use his (~8 years old) daughter as a means to contact her, by having her try to call her. His daughter is in custody of his ex-wife across the country. he doesn't really have anything to do with his daughter. He also tried to reach out to her OLD EXes for no apparent reason when they were together.
My advice was to block his number, but because of his tendencies to show up unannounced and unwanted, she wanted to have any evidence if needed to help in getting a restraining order.
Another Abusive EX (DUDE #2) (long time relationship not local) she had stayed in contact with because of financials. (loans with both names present). HE had been known to fuck with her in extreme ways, also seeming Bi-polar. Trying to get in her pants(wanting to drive to her from 5+ hours away) and take her to court the next. I'm not certain of his exact IT knowledge, but also know he made a SHIT TON of money. His job had to do with the coding in credit card processing for a pornography website and potentially others. There is no reason per se for her to have contact with him but in the same manner, she wanted evidence against him if need be.
FUCKED UP PART I NEED ADVICE WITH :
We agreed it was time to finally completely block these people out of her life, and with uncanny timing, she starting getting calls (answered one of them and got blank air and about 2 deep heavy breathes before we hung up) and texts from unknown numbers (started with 850 /different numbers on different occasions.). Neither of the above people knew anything of us deciding to block them. Both of them sent her messages w/ screenshots of messages from the same number that was calling and texting her. The texts involved Risque/ home-taken pornographic photos of her. The men had been texted these photos with text such as "remember me? we should talk" as well as them receiving (they sent over screenshots) of calls from her number, which her call log shows she did not make.
Some of the pictures She had on her phone/laptop (APPLE devices) which don't show any evidence of being hacked. She has since changed her passwords on all of her accounts, after finding she has lost all of her emails to an OLD yahoo account, that was hacked in early 2019. I know this because I checked all of her accounts on
https://haveibeenpwned.com/ . There may have been a few pics in that email account.
Other Pictures are screenshots that she knows Dude #1 had because he had sent them to her before. exact same pic. only pic that has shown her face thus far. most of her (private mind you) risque pics don't contain her face, but she has a lower back tatoo that proves to be her. He denied any involvement after she accused him because of the screenshot.
Dude #1 claimed he got calls after the texts and answered, and (his words) they couldn't answer personal questions but knew info about her like "the fact that she was an accountant" (worth mentioning she wasn't an accountant but an office manager/ he doesn't know she was fired)
Another Pic Dude #2 would have taken, because she wouldn't have taken that pic, and DUDE #2 is inside of her in the pic.
This morning she received another risque picture of her and a screenshot of some info about her vehicle. had the wrong location but right name and VIN# and model.
There isn't a call to action in any of this. It isn't ransoming the Pics for money, no threats or anything like that. But it is creepy AF, and abusive. her mother got a phone call on her landline, that rang in as the very number of the landline. (does that make sense)? As if the landline called itself. she didn't answer.
Even if we change her number and attempt to update all of her contacts on her new info, Several huge concerns have put tears in her eyes and fear into her heart.
•the threat of not knowing what those Exes could do is almost unbearable Although she isn't sure she has ENOUGH against them as restraining orders seem to be based around physical harm (weapons and such) (DUDE #1 having a previous restraining order does help).
•taking them to court to get a restraining order and the effects that would come after, especially if they would say she doesn't have enough evidence. Not to mention the stress of seeing these people during.
•the biggest fear is those photos and messages being sent to people like friends she doesn't talk to all the time but mean a lot, or WORSE: HER DAD.
How can we stop this? Find who is responsible? Make her feel safe again?
I tried to reverse look up the first number, and only found it was an AT T number registered to a tiny town north of Panama.