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Re: My Girlfriend is being harassed by mystery person(s). advice?
« Reply #15 on: May 07, 2019, 11:03:22 PM »
I don't have much advice to give here, but I will say that all of the guys telling you to "cut and run" have a STRONG point.

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Re: My Girlfriend is being harassed by mystery person(s). advice?
« Reply #16 on: May 08, 2019, 01:09:22 AM »
I don't have much advice to give here, but I will say that all of the guys telling you to "cut and run" have a STRONG point.

I read everything here and I'm not going to say what needs to be said because it's harsh but the advice given was sound.
Starting with k7 and almost everyone else.

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Re: My Girlfriend is being harassed by mystery person(s). advice?
« Reply #17 on: May 08, 2019, 06:32:21 AM »
but some of those crazies...man, they are fun. :P

for littlewest...."we should be in an open relationship" are the words i would use. have your fun with her...not her issues.

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Re: My Girlfriend is being harassed by mystery person(s). advice?
« Reply #18 on: May 08, 2019, 12:37:13 PM »
I JUST WANTED TO SAY THE EVERYONE HEAR HAS GIVEN YOU GOOD ADVISE BUT JUST REMEMBER ANYTHING ATTACHED TO A VAGINA IS FU*@ING NUTS!!! AS LAST COUNT ABOUT 14 DIFFERENT LEVELS.....   :o

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Re: My Girlfriend is being harassed by mystery person(s). advice?
« Reply #19 on: May 08, 2019, 12:48:11 PM »
All good advice, but since it's not the advice that he wants to hear it will probably fall on deaf ears.

I don't care if she's a Nobel prize winning supermodel who's vagina actually makes and drips honey... It's not worth it!

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Re: My Girlfriend is being harassed by mystery person(s). advice?
« Reply #20 on: May 08, 2019, 02:07:06 PM »
   Give him 2 weeks and he will corrupt her bios and set her on fire.  :D


   Seriously, I understand the desire to "White Knight" ...BUT...this woman is made out of red flags AND carries a gun. Unless you wanna get caught up in a Dorothy Stratton style murder/suicide just cut your losses and run.
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Re: My Girlfriend is being harassed by mystery person(s). advice?
« Reply #21 on: May 08, 2019, 09:28:31 PM »
Hey West,

Waay long time no see. It appears you've gotten a might taller. (and without my permission I might add.)

Ran into a similar situation with two of my nephews.

Option 1: [Total Paranoia, I.E. The Crazy Boyfriend] Will rob you of your sleep and your sanity. In this option, you can camera the crap out of everything, escort her to and from work, go armed, and basically wear a "don't mess with me or I will rip your face off." look everywhere you go. Expensive, maintenance heavy, and most likely to lead to a confrontation. Helps to be over 6ft tall and 180+ lbs

Option 2: [Go Dark, referenced earlier] Change phone #, do not give the new number out, even to old friends, as they might share with the person stalking her. Turn off Facebook, change email, reset security on all manner of things, but especially social media. In extreme cases, move away, change name, etc. - Note, this is like a "witness protection" program, it wont work if she isn't committed.

Option 3: [The Direct Approach: usually a REALLY bad idea] Pick a fight with the guy, incite a confrontation, beat the whoohah out of him. - Did I mention really bad idea?

Option 4: [Re-evaluate the relationship] Self reflection, and many HARD questions need to be asked (TO YOURSELF). "Is this worth it?" comes to mind. Yes, you obviously care for her. However, how many boyfriends in how long a period of time? She has obviously taken and shared nudes in the past, is this (or similar) behavior likely to change? What made her a target for this sort of blackmail / stalking in the first place? Being beautiful doesn't truly enter into it, there are plenty of girls (and guys) that are beautiful and useless. As my dad used to say: "You can't shake a hooker tree and get a housewife." Is it her self esteem, or yours that is being fed by this relationship?

All possible choices. In my own case, 2 years into our marriage, (been 10 years now) a guy we knew started following my wife around regularly. Like all over town. My wife called me and I showed up at the store she was at, and there he was. I walked up to him, directly told him that I knew what he was up to, and that he should leave her alone, now, and never follow her again. I said it very quietly, but firmly, without an ounce of threat in my voice. It was enough. Now my wife says that because I'm such a gregarious person normally, when I'm super quiet and focused people don't know what to do or how to react. Some people can be intimidated, some can't, but most people fear uncertainty.

Best of luck in your decision...we can advise, but it is your decision. Your grown, and your going to have to figure it out like all of us did.
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Re: My Girlfriend is being harassed by mystery person(s). advice?
« Reply #22 on: May 09, 2019, 10:38:01 AM »
If you know the first and last of the person(s) you are dealing with, a social media/arrest record search might give you a better idea of what you are potentially getting into.

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Re: My Girlfriend is being harassed by mystery person(s). advice?
« Reply #23 on: May 09, 2019, 11:18:36 AM »
Time to bail, man

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Re: My Girlfriend is being harassed by mystery person(s). advice?
« Reply #24 on: May 09, 2019, 04:32:43 PM »
Meanwhile, back in reality, she's probably doing things to him he's only ever seen on Pornhub and us old f'ers don't know shit.  ;D  I'd probably think the same thing too 30 years ago.  Ehh, 9 times out of 10 it's some fun and a lesson learned.  Just hope you ain't that 10th time...

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Re: My Girlfriend is being harassed by mystery person(s). advice?
« Reply #25 on: May 09, 2019, 06:00:57 PM »
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Re: My Girlfriend is being harassed by mystery person(s). advice?
« Reply #26 on: May 09, 2019, 09:03:07 PM »
Ditto. but the problem is, I have nothing solid against anyone.

Further information about the girl :
She is gorgeous (used to be a dancer[ballerina type shit/ not stripping]) and brilliant. She has a dual bachelors in criminal justice studies and legal studies.
And the biggest heart out of any female I've encountered.


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Re: My Girlfriend is being harassed by mystery person(s). advice?
« Reply #27 on: November 06, 2019, 03:12:57 PM »
Did anyone hear the ending to this story?  It's gotta be good.  :D
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Re: My Girlfriend is being harassed by mystery person(s). advice?
« Reply #28 on: November 06, 2019, 10:16:18 PM »
Did anyone hear the ending to this story?  It's gotta be good.  :D

There are only two ways for it to go...

1. she ruined his life.

2. she is still in process of ruining his life.

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Re: My Girlfriend is being harassed by mystery person(s). advice?
« Reply #29 on: November 06, 2019, 10:46:20 PM »
Did anyone hear the ending to this story?  It's gotta be good.  :D
Damn, first time I saw this post.

He finally wised up and gave her the boot, His words. I think she found out he wasn't going to support her lifestyle and moved on. She was older than him and manipulating him
Funny thing is ex 1 thought he was me. He had a habit of driving my Challenger to work and the ass had the tag run
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